Why Men Pull Away...and How to Navigate It In a High Self Worth Way.
We’ve all been there…you finally meet a guy you like, and he seems to be super into you too. The conversation flows effortlessly, you make each other laugh, and he always texts you to make sure you got home okay - such a gentleman! He sends you flirty texts throughout the week, he takes you out to Italian on Friday nights, and you start to wonder - “Have I met the one?”
And as soon as you have that thought, it’s almost as if he heard you declare his soulmate potential… Or maybe the universe is just playing yet another joke on you…because all of a sudden, his energy starts to shift. His texts slow down. He doesn’t seem as enthusiastic to see you, and he postpones a date you were supposed to go on this weekend.
You start overanalyzing to the umpth degree, wondering what the heck you did wrong. You replay your last dates, trying to figure out the moment when things changed.
Okay, so I have good news and bad news.
The good news is that men DO pull away for reasons that actually don’t have anything to do with their feelings for you.
The BAD news is that men also pull away because their feelings change or because they don’t see long term relationship potential with you.
I’m going to fill you in on these exact reasons and share what you can do to navigate the pull away in a high self worth way. In fact, when you play things right, he may even like you MORE. And no, this does not involve actually playing games of any sort.
But first of all, I want to reassure you - I have 10000% been there before, so I know how confusing, frustrating, anxiety inducing, and even devastating it can feel.
I too have been guilty of spending way too long googling “Why Men Pull Away.”
And my boyfriend STILL pulls away sometimes! Not because he doesn’t like me, but because of some of the reasons I’ll share in a sec.
When we first started dating, I was constantly anxious when I felt his energy shift, and I would bring it up to him, only for him to reassure me that nothing was going on. I was convinced he was lying!
At one point, he sat me down and articulated exactly what went on his head when he got more “distant,” and it gave me so much more ease, security, and peace in the relationship.
So many of us misinterpret the distance, and it causes us to go literally insane.
And the insane, anxious, tense feelings are what cause us to behave in ways that are well, not the most attractive, and can ultimately sabotage relationships with great potential.
Know that MOST women respond in an anxious way. Whether you consider yourself “Anxiously Attached” or not, most feminine beings are wired to seek love and connection over everything, and it can feel extremely unsafe when that connection is jeopardized.
So let’s get into it so you can navigate these situations in the opposite way - a high self worth, attractive, empowered way which is exactly what makes him go, “Woah…there’s something different about her.